Just meanderings

For some reason today I feel a little depressed. Not the bone crushing, suffocating depression I used to have (thank you medication) but just a little and contemplative. The universe has sent messages for me today and the topic of suicide keeps cropping up in my mind. Thankfully not my heart…yet but who knows the future. I’m not saying I’m getting channelled messages from out in the ether to kill myself…no, no! Just ideas and thoughts floating around, considerations if you like.

I’ve come to the conclusion that I don’t like the human race! I don’t really like being part of it. That doesn’t mean I don’t love, or want to leave my loved ones; friends and family. I’m just stating a fact – that I don’t much like human beings. I think that as a whole we are a greedy, thoughtless lot. Yep, me included. Of course we have large brains and you’d think by now we’d have learnt how to use them for the common good of all but sadly no.

Quite often I wish Mother Nature to cause us all to become extinct. It’s not so unreasonable or far-fetched is it? I mean other life forms become extinct, we are animals just the same as the sabre tooth tiger and the dodo, so why not us too? Don’t you think this world would be better off? No more wars, no more starving mud-encrusted refugees, no more pollution, no more poverty, no more sexual abuse, no more violence, no more…no more!

Yes, there are enlightened human beings and thank the Universe for them but we have to be extremely naive to imagine that every single human being is going to become aware and enlightened. The human race is fighting a losing battle, at least that’s my sad opinion. But I bet there will be folks who say…’but where is your hope?’ Good question! I do have hope but not really for us humans – it’s incredible how sad the news makes me. We perpetrate our own demise, in small ways and in big; maybe not for us alive today but for future generations.  There comes a time when one has to bail out of a sinking ship.

Sometimes I long for death – my passing on from the world of the material into the world of spirit. But there is something in me that keeps me hanging on (wasn’t that a song?). Why? Not because of human beings that’s for sure but for the joy I receive unconditionally from Mother Nature and from the universe. I derive more pleasure from watching a little bird sing on a branch than from an orchestra. Actually, that’s not quite true because sometimes, just sometimes human music can touch the soul and it makes being human worthwhile.

My spirit is having an experience while in this frail mortal body – I only hope it is worth it.

Being nobody but everybody

Some time ago when I was doing my Shamanic training under mentorship by a very wise and astute woman (a shaman of many years standing) I was asked ‘Who are you?’ Well I thought about this, and thought some more and finally came up with this answer…I am nobody but everybody. She smiled with wisdom but never said anything. Some time later during one of my therapy sessions I said the same thing because the question ‘Who am I?’ came up a lot for many of us. This time however I was misunderstood and rounded on. Now today, as I read Gina Lake’s very insightful book Embracing the Now, I come to exactly the same chapter – Being Nobody and Everybody. I’d like to share this short chapter with you all, my dear readers.

When we are identified with the ego, we feel like somebody. Somebody who likes this and doesn’t like that, who wants this and doesn’t want that, who looks this way and not that way, who has this history and not some other history, who has certain dreams and desires but not others. All these are woven into an idea and a story about who we are, which makes us feel like a certain somebody. We have an image, a history, goals, and an imagined future. All of this seems like who we are. But, as they say, things are not always as they seem.

Ideas about what we like, what we’ve done, what we want, what we look like, and many other ideas make up our self-image. But our self-image is still just an imagination, a picture, an idea of who we are. It isn’t who we really are. Everyone has a self-image but that doesn’t make self-images real. They are just ideas. We pretend we are our self-image and that others are theirs but no one is an image. Everyone is something other than an image because an image isn’t what is walking around and living life. We also aren’t the body we are walking around in. Who we really are is using the body but it isn’t the body.

The problem is that what we really are isn’t an image or even a thing. It isn’t something the mind can understand because it’s beyond the mind and can’t be expressed in language. Who we really are is not an image or a thing but more like an experience of no-thing-ness. The mind would rather not acknowledge no-thing-ness because it is uncomfortable with no-thing-ness, since it was designed to deal with things. Because who we really are can’t be experienced by the mind, the ego considers who we really are to be nothing, which it is, but not nothing of consequence, which is what the ego assumes.

When we drop out of our mind and into the moment and into our Heart, we experience who we really are but not as an image. When we are really in the Heart (Essence), images and ideas drop away and what is left is simply the experience of being, or of being nobody in particular; not male or female, not young or old, not attractive or unattractive, not smart or dumb, not anything we can name. The experience of our true nature is an experience of emptiness. Our true nature is empty of all definition, and yet, it is full and complete, lacking nothing. The experience of being nobody and nothing is equally an experience of being everybody and everything because this emptiness is without boundaries and therefore includes everything; nothing is left out. There’s no me and you but only spaciousness, beingness. That unending spaciousness is who we are.

It is possible to experience nobody-ness or everybody-ness in any moment because our true self is always here – it’s what is living life! The reason the empty spaciousness that we are isn’t experienced more often or for longer periods of time is that the ego isn’t comfortable with it. The ego runs from the experience of who we really are and draws us into its arena – thoughts – where we lose awareness of our true nature.

Whenever you experience who you really are, notice how the ego comes in with a thought to bring you back into its world of ideas about life and out of the experience of life. Who we are – nobody or everybody – is experiencing life, while the ego just thinks about life and makes up stories about it. What a different reality the ego’s reality is than real life! When we give our attention to thoughts, those ideas and beliefs become our reality; and when we give our attention to the experience of the present moment, our true nature becomes our reality.

The more we notice the effect that paying attention to our thoughts has on us – contraction, stress, tension, unhappiness and negative feelings – the more we will choose to turn our attention away from the world of thought and onto this simple moment. The Now is full and rich and has all the peace we have ever wanted. What the Now doesn’t have are the problems and drama created by the ego, which the ego wants because problems and drama keep us attached to our thoughts. Are you ready to exchange your problems and the drama of the ego for peace, contentment, and the experience of being nobody?

Extract from Embracing the Now by Gina Lake

A Beginner’s Guide to Meditation: Part One

I thought I would post up a little offering to those of you, who like me, find meditation somewhat difficult and a bit confusing. First of all I cannot stress too much how beneficial meditation is; it calms the mind, grounds and centers you, helps decrease stress and worry and allows us to get in touch with our inner self. However, I’m going to stress equally that you do not have to contort yourself into the lotus position, or even the half lotus, meditation is not about reaching some kind of nirvana that helps us escape everyday life, nor is it only for highly spiritual people. Effective meditation can be achieved by each and every one of us IF we take the time to make it a daily practice. Like any new skill we learn we have to practise and practise don’t we? Learning something new just doesn’t happen, and nor will the ability to meditate just happen. However, I can say that if you make the effort to set aside just 5 minutes a day to begin with and follow the steps I give in this article, you will begin to see a difference in yourself, and most probably in your life too. How can I say this? Because I do it myself and have seen the benefits in my own life. Moreover, I know of many people who do the same, or very similar, and they can attest to the difference meditation has made in their lives also.

To begin with meditation is NOT about imagining something peaceful in your mind. No! That is called Visualisation and it’s a complete different kettle of fish. Although the ability to visualise is very important in improving one’s life and one’s spirituality. Here, though, I’m talking about meditation. Of course, the first thing you’re going to ask is ‘How can I meditate when my mind just won’t shut up!’ Yes, that’s always a difficult thing to deal with in the beginning. How do you stop your thoughts from flowing in and out of your consciousness, or what the wise sages of old called ‘monkey mind’…chattering away non-stop.

First of all try to get rid of any expectations you might have about meditation. No, you won’t suddenly reach enlightenment on the first couple of sittings. No, you won’t suddenly sit there with a Buddha-like smile on your face (well, ok you might). forget about zen mind and everything else. Not that Zen is wrong, but sometimes, for a beginner, we can just get bogged down with oversimplification which then becomes downright confusing – well, it did to me anyhow.

So, sit and make yourself comfortable. Sitting is preferable to lying down because there is a tendency to just nod off if you lie down. So sit comfortably…did I say comfortably? Yes, sit comfortably in a chair or on the ground but make sure you feel comfortable. There’s nothing worse than trying to meditate if your left hand has got pins and needles, or your right calf has an excruciating cramp in it.

Don’t play music, and don’t burn any incense, not yet any way. That will come later if you wish it. You want to try to minimise any distractions and yes that does mean turning off your phone too, and giving yourself enough time alone to do this. Your wife, hubby, partner or kids can do without your presence for 5 to 10 minutes can’t they? The world won’t collapse if you don’t give it your attention for a short while.

Ok, so now what? you’re undisturbed and in a comfy position….and now the thoughts come reeling in don’t they. Ha! I knew they would. I bet you might be thinking…oh let’s get this over with I’ve got the shopping to do…blah blah blah. Yes, I know it, I’ve been there and read the book, got the t-shirt.

So, just sit and notice your breathing. Don’t try to do this breathe deeply in for three…hold for 10…and release for 600…no no! Just breathe normally! Notice your breath, how it goes into your nostrils, how it leaves your nostrils (you might need to blow your nose before you begin all this). Just focus on each breath entering you and leaving you.

Ah yes, a though has intruded hasn’t it. Something like…what’s going to happen next…or…the neighbours are going out…or….what shall we have for dinner… Yes, I know, they intrude with me too. So now you do NOT want to force those thoughts away. Just notice them and refocus on your breathing. Each time a though intrudes just notice it and refocus on your breath entering and leaving your body. Keep doing this…it’s all ok…it’s all as it should be!

Keep focusing on your breathing but this time notice where you’re breathing from. Are you breathing from the upper part of your chest? How does it feel? Tight? Anxious? Try breathing from your belly. Allow yourself to take in air though your nose and fill those lungs right into your belly…yeah, let that belly stick out, let it all hang out. Now you know why most statues of the Buddha have big bellies…because they’re breathing correctly. you see you don’t want to be breathing from your upper body; your chest. You need to be breathing from your belly and allowing the air to fill ALL your lungs, not just the upper half. How does your breathing feel now? Are you more relaxed?

So, right now you should be doing two things…breathing in a relaxed way from your belly AND focusing on just your breath…in…out…in…out…

And this is really all you have to do for right now…just belly breath and focus on your breath. When a thought intrudes (and they will), don’t try to force them away…just refocus your attention on your breathing.

You see, thoughts come from the ego and the ego just doesn’t like it when you are still and silent with no-thought. It needs to keep you busy on this and that, what to eat for dinner, what to buy Auntie Maud for her birthday, why didn’t your boyfriend (or girlfriend) ring last night…and ad infinitum. The ego doesn’t like being in the moment. It likes keeping you in the past or in the future but NEVER in the moment. So, it stands to reason that it’s going to kick up a big fuss when you begin to meditate. It’s hoping you’re going to throw your hands up in the air and say…oh this is just too difficult…but the truth is that it isn’t difficult at all. It just requires you to just BE in the present, breathing from your belly and focusing on your breath…in…out…in…out.

Well, that’s enough for now. Over the next few days keep practicing this. Start with 5 to 10 minutes a day at first. Don’t be too ambitious…start small and work gently forwards. After all meditation should actually be enjoyable and enlightening, so why rush it?

 

A story on the mind and the brain from OSHO

The thought of stillness and silence excites nobody. It is not your personal problem. It is the problem of human mind as such, because to be still, to be silent, means to be in a state of no-mind.

Mind cannot be still. It needs continuous thinking, worrying. The mind functions like a bicycle; if you go on pedaling it, it continues. The moment you stop the pedaling, you are going to fall down. Mind is a two-wheeled vehicle just like a bicycle, and your thinking is a constant pedaling. Even sometimes if you are a little bit silent you immediately start worrying, “Why am I silent?” Anything will do to create worrying, thinking, because mind can exist only in one way — in running, always running after something or running from something, but always running. In the running is the mind. The moment you stop, the mind disappears.

Right now you are identified with the mind. You think you are it. From there comes the fear. If you are identified with the mind, naturally if mind stops you are finished, you are no more. And you don’t know anything beyond mind.

The reality is you are not mind, you are something beyond mind; hence it is absolutely necessary that the mind stops so that for the first time you can know that you are not mind, because you are still there. Mind is gone, you are still there…and with greater joy, greater glory, greater light, greater consciousness, greater being. Mind was pretending, and you had fallen into the trap.

What you have to understand is the process of identification…how one can get identified with something which one is not.

The ancient parable in the East is that a lioness was jumping from one hillock to another hillock and just in the middle she gave birth to a lamb. The lamb fell down on the road where a big crowd of sheep was passing. Naturally he mixed with the sheep, lived with the sheep, behaved like a sheep. He had no idea, not even in his dreams, that he is a lion. How could he have? All around him were sheep and more sheep. He had never roared like a lion; a sheep does not roar. He had never been alone like a lion; a sheep is never alone. She is always in the crowd; the crowd is cozy, secure, safe. If you see sheep walking, they walk so close together that they are almost stumbling on each other. They are so afraid to be alone.

But the lion started growing up. It was a strange phenomenon. He was identified mentally with being a sheep, but biology does not go according to your identification; nature is not going to follow you.

He became a beautiful young lion, but because things happened so slowly the sheep also became accustomed to the lion while the lion was becoming accustomed to the sheep. The sheep thought he is a little crazy, naturally. He’s not behaving — a little cuckoo — and he goes on growing. It is not supposed to be so. And pretending to be a lion…but he is not a lion. They have seen him from his very birth, they have brought him up, they have given their milk to him. And he was a nonvegetarian by nature. No lion is vegetarian, but this lion was vegetarian because sheep are vegetarian. He used to eat grass with great joy.

They accepted this little difference, that he is a little big and looks like a lion. A very wise sheep said, “It is just a freak of nature. Once in a while it happens.” And he himself also accepted that it is true. His color is different, his body is different; he must be a freak, abnormal. But the idea that he is a lion was impossible! He was surrounded by all those sheep, and sheep psychoanalysts gave him explanations: “You are just a freak of nature. Don’t be worried. We are here to take care of you.”

But one day an old lion passed and saw this young lion far above the crowd of sheep. He could not believe his eyes! He had never seen such a thing nor had he ever heard in the history of the whole past that a lion was in the middle of a crowd of sheep and no sheep was afraid. And the lion was walking exactly like the sheep, grazing on grass.

The old lion could not believe his eyes. He forgot he was going to catch a sheep for his breakfast. He completely forgot the breakfast. It was something so strange that he tried to catch the young lion. But he was old, and the young lion was young — he ran away. Although he believed that he was a sheep, when there was danger the identification was forgotten. He ran like a lion, and the old lion had great difficulty in catching him. But finally the old lion got hold of him and he was crying and weeping and saying, “Just forgive me, I am a poor sheep.” The old lion said, “You idiot! You simply stop and come with me to the pond.”

Just nearby there was a pond. He took the young lion there. The young lion was not going willingly. He went reluctantly, but what can you do against a lion if you are only a sheep? He may kill you if you don’t follow him, so he went with him. The pond was silent, with no ripples, almost like a mirror. And the old lion said to the young, “Just look. Look at my face and look at your face. Look at my body and look at your body in the water.”

In a second there came a great roar! All the hills echoed it. The sheep disappeared; he was a totally different being — he recognized himself. The identification with sheep was not a reality, it was just a mental concept. Now he had seen the reality. And the old lion said, “Now I don’t have to say anything. You have understood.”

The young lion could feel strange energy he had never felt…as if it had been dormant. He could feel tremendous power, and he had always been a weak, humble sheep. All that humbleness, all that weakness, simply evaporated.

This is an ancient parable about the master and the disciple. The function of the master is only to bring the disciple to see who he is and that what he goes on believing is not true.

Your mind is not created by nature. Try to keep the distinction always: your brain is created by nature. Your brain is the mechanism that belongs to the body, but your mind is created by the society in which you live — by the religion, by the church, by the ideology that your parents followed, by the educational system that you were taught in, by all kinds of things. That’s why there is a Christian mind and a Hindu mind, a Mohammedan mind and a communist mind. Brains are natural, but minds are a created phenomenon. It depends on which flock of sheep you belong to. Was the flock of the sheep Hindu? Then naturally you will behave like a Hindu.

Meditation is the only method that can make you aware that you are not the mind; and that gives you a tremendous mastery. Then you can choose what is right with your mind and what is not right with your mind, because you are distant, an observer, a watcher. Then you are not so much attached to the mind, and that is your fear.

You have completely forgotten yourself; you have become the mind. The identification is complete. So when I say, “Be silent. Be still. Be alert and watchful of your thought processes,” you freak out, you become afraid. It looks like death. In a way you are right but it is not your death, it is the death of your conditionings. Combined they are called your mind.

Once you are capable of seeing the distinction clearly — that you are separate from the mind and the mind is separate from the brain — it immediately happens. Simultaneously, as you withdraw from the mind, you suddenly see that the mind is in the middle; on both sides there is brain and consciousness.

The brain is simply a mechanism. Whatever you want to do with it, you can do. Mind is the problem, because others make it for you. It is not you, it is not even your own; it is all borrowed.

The priests, the politicians, the people who are in power, the people who have vested interests, don’t want you to know that you are above mind, beyond mind. Their whole effort has been to keep you identified with the mind, because mind is managed by them, not by you. You are being deceived in such a subtle way. The managers of your mind are outside.

When the consciousness becomes identified with the mind, then the brain is helpless. The brain is simply mechanical. Whatever mind wants, the brain does. But if you are separate, then the mind loses its power; otherwise it is sovereign. And you are afraid of meditation because of that.

I don’t belong to any religion, I don’t belong to any political ideology, I don’t belong to any nation. I don’t have myself filled up with all kinds of nonsense called “holy scriptures.” I have simply pushed the mind aside. I use the brain directly; there is no need of any conditioning, there is no need of any mediator.

But your fear is understandable. You have been brought up with certain concepts, and perhaps you are afraid to lose them.

~ Osho, The Path of the Mystic, Talk #40

Thought of the day: About therapy

Well, over this bank holiday weekend I’ve come to a few decisions about the direction of my life. One of which is my therapy. Now, I really do advocate therapy and actually I think everyone should spend some time in therapy in their lives. It’s not just for the mentally pathological! I’ve been in therapy for at least 3 years on a consistent basis and I have to say, with honesty, that it has been beneficial in a lot of ways. But of course therapy is only as good as you make it and it requires the person putting the work in.

However, as we all know there are many different kinds of therapeutic avenues, and the one I’ve been in is group therapy specifically for people with personality disorders. This in itself has been fine but I’ve always had difficulty with its unbalanced approach. You see it is most definitely not holistic and focuses a lot on the negative aspects of one’s life and problems. to begin with I think this is necessary – one has to kind of go back to the playground and allow the hurt inner child to rant and rave in a supported atmosphere. I’ve been there and done this now and this kind of therapy no longer serves its purpose for me.

Another problem I had was its lack of balance and its linear approach. As my spirituality plays such a large and important part of my life I need something that is going to embrace that too, rather than me feeling like I cannot talk about it, or worse it being dismissed. It’s become very hard for me to talk about my life and my feelings and leave my spirituality out of it. My world view is so different from most of my fellow therapees (I’m not sure this is a word but it seems a good enough one LOL).

So, with all this in mind I finally have begun my search for a therapist that will have a more holistic and spiritual approach and I think I’ve found one. I’m just waiting to hear back from her actually. I’m excited but obviously nervous notwithstanding that if I do see this person she is based in London, but having said that I feel I can work through the anxiety and do it anyway.

I don’t feel badly about the possibility of me leaving the therapeutic unit I’m in – it has served its purpose for me, and I think the things that have recently happened in my life have just served to clarify what I knew already – that it was time to move on. I can remember sharing these thoughts with a friend not so long ago and he said to me ‘when it’s time you will know!’ I really think that time has come. However, before I do anything official I’m going to be speaking with my GP first.

Thought of the day: About forgiveness

I’ve been thinking a lot about forgiveness recently, not only for myself but for others too. While acknowledging the feelings and emotions that come with inner pain, I also want to move through these and heal, as well as for the other to heal. Luckily I’ve been able to deal with my feelings of anger and the negative emotions quite constructively though using Mindfulness and trusting my Spirit Guides. I’ve not denied these feelings but have not turned them towards myself or others. This shows just how far I’ve come because a year or so ago I would have self-harmed and punished myself. While I do feel partially to blame I know also that there is no point in apportioning blame or fault because it just doesn’t do anything constructive.

Today I came across a really useful article on Forgiveness from the Mayo Clinic. I stumbled upon it purely by chance but you know, for me this is how the Universe works…it provides synchronicity just when I need it the most. I’m not at all surprised but I do give thanks.

Forgiveness: Letting go of grudges and bitterness  

When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge — or embrace forgiveness and move forward. Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another. Perhaps your mother criticized your parenting skills, your colleague sabotaged a project or your partner had an affair. These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness or even vengeance — but if you don’t practice forgiveness, you might be the one who pays most dearly. By embracing forgiveness, you can also embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy. Consider how forgiveness can lead you down the path of physical, emotional and spiritual well-being.  

What is forgiveness?  

Generally, forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.   Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you deny the other person’s responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn’t minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life.   What are the benefits of forgiving someone?   Letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for compassion, kindness and peace. Forgiveness can lead to:  Healthier relationships Greater spiritual and psychological well-being Less anxiety, stress and hostility Lower blood pressure Fewer symptoms of depression Lower risk of alcohol and substance abuse

Why is it so easy to hold a grudge?  

When you’re hurt by someone you love and trust, you might become angry, sad or confused. If you dwell on hurtful events or situations, grudges filled with resentment, vengeance and hostility can take root. If you allow negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice.  

What are the effects of holding a grudge?  

If you’re unforgiving, you might pay the price repeatedly by bringing anger and bitterness into every relationship and new experience. Your life might become so wrapped up in the wrong that you can’t enjoy the present. You might become depressed or anxious. You might feel that your life lacks meaning or purpose, or that you’re at odds with your spiritual beliefs. You might lose valuable and enriching connectedness with others.  

How do I reach a state of forgiveness?  

Forgiveness is a commitment to a process of change. To begin, you might: Consider the value of forgiveness and its importance in your life at a given time  Reflect on the facts of the situation, how you’ve reacted, and how this combination has affected your life, health and well-being  When you’re ready, actively choose to forgive the person who’s offended you  Move away from your role as victim and release the control and power the offending person and situation have had in your life   As you let go of grudges, you’ll no longer define your life by how you’ve been hurt. You might even find compassion and understanding.

What happens if I can’t forgive someone?  

Forgiveness can be challenging, especially if the person who’s hurt you doesn’t admit wrong or doesn’t speak of his or her sorrow. If you find yourself stuck, consider the situation from the other person’s point of view. Ask yourself why he or she would behave in such a way. Perhaps you would have reacted similarly if you faced the same situation. In addition, consider broadening your view of the world. Expect occasional imperfections from the people in your life. You might want to reflect on times you’ve hurt others and on those who’ve forgiven you. It can also be helpful to write in a journal, pray or use guided meditation — or talk with a person you’ve found to be wise and compassionate, such as a spiritual leader, a mental health provider, or an impartial loved one or friend.  

Does forgiveness guarantee reconciliation?  

If the hurtful event involved someone whose relationship you otherwise value, forgiveness can lead to reconciliation. This isn’t always the case, however. Reconciliation might be impossible if the offender has died or is unwilling to communicate with you. In other cases, reconciliation might not be appropriate. Still, forgiveness is possible — even if reconciliation isn’t.   What if I have to interact with the person who hurt me but I don’t want to?   If you haven’t reached a state of forgiveness, being near the person who hurt you might be tense and stressful. To handle these situations, remember that you can choose to attend or avoid specific functions and gatherings. Respect yourself and do what seems best. If you choose to attend, don’t be surprised by a certain amount of awkwardness and perhaps even more intense feelings. Do your best to keep an open heart and mind. You might find that the experience helps you to move forward with forgiveness.  

What if the person I’m forgiving doesn’t change?  

Getting another person to change his or her actions, behavior or words isn’t the point of forgiveness. Think of forgiveness more about how it can change your life — by bringing you peace, happiness, and emotional and spiritual healing. Forgiveness can take away the power the other person continues to wield in your life.  

What if I’m the one who needs forgiveness?  

The first step is to honestly assess and acknowledge the wrongs you’ve done and how those wrongs have affected others. At the same time, avoid judging yourself too harshly. You’re human, and you’ll make mistakes. If you’re truly sorry for something you’ve said or done, consider admitting it to those you’ve harmed. Speak of your sincere sorrow or regret, and specifically ask for forgiveness — without making excuses. Remember, however, you can’t force someone to forgive you. Others need to move to forgiveness in their own time. Whatever the outcome, commit to treating others with compassion, empathy and respect.  

Source: The Mayo Clinic

I hope this article will help those who need forgiveness, and who also need to forgive. I had a recent comment about this from someone reading my blog – so I do hope it helps you too. I know reading it has helped me. But I also believe we need to forgive ourselves too, and maybe before we can forgive others. We need to forgive ourselves for our mistakes, our fuck-ups, our bullshit. We are spirits having a human experience but as such we think and feel like humans, and it’s not so easy to forgive ourselves. The bottom line is we WILL make mistakes and we WILL fuck up sometimes; we cannot get around that. The next line is to learn from our mistakes and balls ups and do the work on ourselves in order to try not to make the mistakes again but along with that comes self-forgiveness. Probably it’s the hardest thing to do but we need to learn to do it in order to evolve as humans.

So be gentle with yourself, have compassion and empathy for yourself, learn where you went wrong but use it as an experience to do things differently in the future, and know you’re not ever alone!

Daily Om ~ Undistracted Energy

The longer we are able to hold a positive thought, the stronger that energy around us becomes.

If we make no effort at all, our thoughts usually scatter in a vast array of directions. They start and stop and move in surprising ways from one second to the next. If we try to follow our thoughts without controlling them, we will be amazed at how truly inconsistent they are. Yet, if we apply our minds to a specific task, especially one that interests us, they gather together and allow us to focus our attention, creating great power and energy. This is what is known as pure thought, because it is undistracted.

The law of attraction—like attracts like—influences all energy, including our thoughts, and this is what makes pure thought so potent. Our undistracted thoughts create a powerful magnet that draws similar energy into our vibrational field. As a result, the longer we are able to hold positive thoughts in our minds, the more powerful the positive energy around us becomes. We don’t need to focus on action and controlling so much when we are surrounded by energy that draws what we want toward us. We can simply respond to the opportunities that naturally come our way. When this is the essence of our experience, we can go with the flow, knowing that we will be okay.

If pure thought is a body, it is our emotions that supply the heart that can really bring it to life. Our thoughts and feelings exist in relation to one another, and they form a feedback loop through which they communicate and empower each other. When we hold a thought in our mind without being distracted, we have achieved pure thought. When we have a positive emotional response to that thought, we enable it to dance and move and breathe itself into existence.