Turning again to The Osho Zen Tarot I pull the King of Water. As we know the element of water is strongly linked with the emotions, and it is the emotions that are tied up with healing. So water too is strongly linked with cleansing and healing. Osho says this about this card:
No, you carry your wound. With the ego your whole being is a wound, and you carry it around…everybody is engaged in safeguarding his own wound…you are so ready to be wounded. Be aware of your wound. Don’t help it grow, let it be healed; and it will be healed only when you move to the roots. The less the head, the more the wound will heal; with no head there is no wound. Live a headless life. more as a total being, and accept things – just for 24 hours, try it! Total acceptance, whatever happens.
When we are wounded, or see others wounded we ask Why? This is thinking…we are using our head but not our hearts and we cannot accept and be whole if we use our heads, if we think. We cannot heal if we think. We can only heal from our wounds if we move down our bodies, and into our hearts. We need to think with our hearts except the heart does not think, it accepts. Thinking is tied up with the mind’s ego but the heart is linked with acceptance and forgiveness, not just for those who have hurt us but for ourselves too. The ego doesn’t want us to heal or forgive – it wants us to hold on to the wound, and in time it will fester and become infected. It is only washing the wound with heart water that it will be cleansed and healed.
Is using the heart easy? Is acceptance easy? Not at first because the mind fights and sends thoughts running this way and that. It never lets you alone does it. You are tormented by thoughts and then thoughts of thoughts and then thoughts of thoughts of thoughts and all the time the wound grows deeper and more virulent, until one day it is so much part of you that you could not imagine being without it. With the mind you learn to actually love your wound and hold onto it, refusing to let it heal – it is part of you!
But there is another way, a better way, and that is to move into your heart. The heart accepts what has been, what is and what will be. The heart washes the wound clean, just like a bath of cleansing water flushes out a physical wound. But wait, you say, what about abuse in relationships, what about child abuse, what about the terrible events going on in the world. Should we stand by and do nothing?
The answer to that my friend is yes and no! No, we should not stay in an abusive relationship, we should not allow children to be abused by others, we need to safeguard each other of course – but when these things happen, and they WILL happen, we also need to heal the wounds inflicted. and that means to stop asking WHY and move from our heads to our hearts…and practice this each day simply and quietly. Start off simply – when someone insults you you are angry and hurt, and if in public maybe even humiliated. These are feelings. Sit with them, it’s ok to feel them. Then sink into your heart. Let the anger and hurt and humiliation go..they don’t serve you forever. Stop your mind from it’s frantic thoughts…whatever they may be…thoughts of pay back, thoughts of revenge…just let them go. Open the floodgates of your heart and allow the cleansing waters to wash the wound clean. The more you do this the more normal it becomes, and then when a really tragic and awful event occurs…and it will…you will be ready to act from the heart and not the head.