Daily Om ~ Common Fears

Our minds are powerful and moving into fear is a common experience that we can each look at and change.

Everyone has fears—it is a natural part of being human. Fear can protect us from harm by sending a rush of adrenaline to help us physically deal with potential danger. But there are times when fear may keep us from participating fully in life. Once we realize that fear is a state of mind, we can choose to face our fears, change our minds, and create the life we want to live.

Our minds are powerful tools to be used by our higher selves; like computers, storing and using data to make certain connections between thought and response. We have the ability to observe these and choose differently. No matter where the fear came from, we can create new connections by choosing new thoughts. When our souls and minds are in alignment, we create a new experience of reality. This journey requires many small steps, as well as patience and courage through the process. Here’s an example: You decide to overcome your fear of driving on the freeway. Your plan of action starts with examining your thoughts and finding a new way of seeing the situation. When you’re ready, you enlist a calm companion to support you as you take the first step of merging into the slow lane and using the first exit. Your heart may be racing, but your confidence will be boosted by the accomplishment. Repeat this until you are comfortable, with or without help, and then drive one exit furth! er. When you are ready, you can try driving in the middle lane, for longer periods each time, until you find yourself going where you want to go. This gradual process is similar for conquering any fear, but if you find it overwhelming, you can always seek the help of a professional.

You may think that you are the only one with a particular fear, that nobody else could possibly be scared of ordinary things such as water, heights, public speaking, or flying. These types of fears are very common, and you can have great success overcoming them. Remember, it is not the absence of the fear but the courage to take action anyway that determines success. When we learn to face our fears, we learn to observe our thoughts and feelings but not be ruled by them. Instead we choose how to shape the lives we want.


2 thoughts on “Daily Om ~ Common Fears

  1. For me, it’s so hard to have compassion for oneself when it comes to fears. I bought a cognitive psychology book yesterday with a more humanistic slant. Compassion for oneself like you pointed out along with consciousness is necessary for lasting change. I bash myself constantly for my anxieties, like fear of different places, etc…and then don’t do anything about it. You have an amazingly beautiful soul full of compassion!

    • It is hard to have compassion for ourselves because we are influenced by early childhood, parents, society etc. Probably the reason why you don’t do anything about your anxieties is because you’ve beaten yourself up and there’s no motivation because you’ve used all your energy up in beating yourself up. CBT is a useful tool as is remembering you can overcome difficulties with some work and support. I have anxieties too but I work on them and if I don’t do so well I just say ‘ok, didn’t do so well there but never mind, there’s another opportunity’. Even though I still have a lot of difficulties with getting out of my ‘safe environment’ and interacting with people face-to-face I keep trying and have stopped beating myself up – that energy can be put to good use elsewhere. I try to be compassionate, sometimes I don’t do so well at it but I’m human and am not perfect but thank you for saying what you did, very kind of you 🙂 Don’t give up on yourself, practise being kind to yourself – it takes some getting used to believe me, but if you make it a habit to be kind rather than beat yourself up you will see an amazing difference 🙂

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